Read Alanis’ recent article on Marriage written for iVillage.com
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http://www.ivillage.com/alanis-morissette-getting-married/1-a-402057
Alanis writes for iVillage.com about Marriage
November 15th, 2011 7:12 pm
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What a lovely pic!! Would love to see more from the wedding!
Another beautiful read…
Our paths have been similar in that we both had previous engagements that didn’t go as planned (phew!!). My situation ended in early ’06–I was so heart-broken despite it being my decision to realize this would not be a good fit for me. I was shell-shocked, certain I would be single the rest of my life–knew how hard dating was, I was 33 watching friends have babies, 2nd babies, etc… Yet even though I wanted to have love again, I was TERRIFIED… Could I survive another loss like that?? Ouch.
But time healed, spring came, Flavors of Entanglement came out! (ps-thanks for that!), and sure enough my walls came down… (mostly!). Trusting again took time–still does! Your comment about wanting marriage to wake both out of slumber–so important, I am learning (often the hard way!) that it is not all one smooth ride and when bumpy, jump out. And the value of not jumping out (though still the desire knee-jerk reflexive sometimes when things are tough!)–so worth everything:)
You both look really happy in that picture!
Interesting read. I’ve been thinking about marriage since I was a teenage, too. And it happened naturally. Actually, it was so natural that today I couldn’t tell the exact moment. From the day I met my husband to the day we got legally married (8 years after but for money/work/university reasons) we were one. I am probably a lucky gul, don’t know, but reading your article I feel like I am (or maybe you are too celebral!
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Finally, I am really happy you did it!! (and by the way, you both look so goooood in that photo! Such a shiny happy wife with her shiny happy hubby!)
Congratulations for post!!!
I hope that new circle of your life!!
God Bless you always!!
It is amazing and a pleasure to read the life long evolution of your thought about marriage. You seem to have reached a perfect point where your doubts and fears will never be strong enough to make you collapse. You always stood up for what you value, you never gave up and you succeded!
This whole intellectual and spiritual course you share touches me and I can’t wait to hear it from your new songs coming!
Wish you the best for you and your family!
Look….you married him, because you wanted a kid. so his job done. so you can fire him…divorce him. you gonna divorce him sooner or later. is not it so? THE SOONER THE better for both of you…..DIVORCE.
I remember my weeding. How I was petrified by the fact of meeting somebody who could ply with my heart and distroy my feelings. How I was alone, spending my time looking for my better. And I did. But only 40%. Then, I met my future husband. I denied my heart´s beat saying to me that he was the guy. But something else, an energy made me look into his eyes and feel. I felt compassion, I felt happninness and I felt only 1% of Love, because then we got married and I figured out that Love is just few in the beggining. Then, you need to built it up together. Not easy when you do not agree with the numbers but easy when the vision in the end is the same. And how great is to discover that I am an early-bird and he´s an owl. I feel that we´re 24 hours connected. In the morning h has his coffee in bed, when I am active and his sleepy-head. But at evening I am wrecked and he´s full of energy, so I have my milk and go to bed. Thus, I feel that we´re 24 hours alert with each other and connected.
He challenges me due to his high I.Q. And I bring some funny moments with my art side. He´s Irish, I am Brazilian and I love all the differences we have. And I love most when the language is a problem and we let the silence speak for both of us. Yhans for the inspiring text on iVillage. It´s good to wake up beside him every morning, look into his blue eyes, his smile every morning, say I love you and have this for the rest of my my life.
GReat writing! You’re such a brilliant writer and your brain is really capable and highly above these common futile “writing people” around us!
Alanis.. after all the heart broken stories happening to you.. including the last one with Ryan Reynolds(I almost believed that he would be your perfect husband before, I feel so grateful to finally see you’re a happy wife now with a beautiful family.
Congratulations for the life!!!
I absolutely LOVED this article. Beautifully written and warms my heart to the core. To hear such a personal perspective and journey on a very personal subject is both refreshing and inspiring. Thank you Alanis, thank you.
So happy for you….Congratulations!! After a seven year, not so desirable relationship, I had called it quits. I went on several “dates” with guys who were “the perfect guy” for me. So it was told. When things were too much to handle, I bolted to the hills…NO DRAMA PLEASE!!! Relationships I invested my heart and soul into quickly crumbled under the weight of selflessness and need. On my break from romantic attachment, I met my dear husband through a childhood friend who was in town visiting for the weekend. From the moment I shook his hand I knew he was the one and we haven’t been apart since. He like I had been in a long term relationship that was going nowhere but stayed together based on convenience. Seriously who really wants to be alone. We met with our guards were down and there was no pressure to impress. We got to experience our true selves, evolve and grow as a couple. I wake up every morning feeling like I’m the luckiest girl in the world.
Brilliant!!!
“Fear of pleasent, fear of joytude…” is over? I guess and I’m happy for you!
Good, honest, very real article, thank you for being so open and share.
I got through my puberty and twenties with your music, and now I can’t believe we’re going through marriage and motherhood together with you.
New site looks great, also thanks for that and once again thank you for your honesty!
Alanis always I surprise you and leave me without words…
Congratulation for your marriage!!
I agree I too luv that you were stong minded & was able to “discerned your own meaning and understand of what a marriage should be”. holyfool7 . . people forget that marriage “means nothing without love, trust, respect and freedom”! it can be over rated especially when viewed as an obligation. . . . I hate that!thats no way to live life!
i love how you have discerned your own meaning and understand of what a marriage should be. I know a lot of people just jump into it for whatever reasons it may be such as obligation, the “oh lets get married cuz im pregnant”, or just cuz its “the thing to do”… or for media attention (like those idiot kardashians)/ A marriage means nothing without love, trust, respect and freedom (among many other qualities). Congrats to alanis and mario! I cant wait to get married one day… and in New York!!!!!! lol
ahh yes love, trust and respect important aspects of meaninful marriage. too bad many people don’t also place lots of stock into the the equally important aspects of marriage/love which includes SACRIFICE AND COMMITTMENT. Too much bailing out these days. Humans are like Canada Geese: meant to mate for life!!
very good. please keep writing
Great article/writing AM. Without wanting to completely derail the topic, if folks want to enter into same sex relationships I’m tolerable; however, it’s my opinion they need to come up, with another word for the english language other than to call it marriage. Just one person’s opinion.
really nicely written Alanis….very interesting reads!! glad you’ve found your happiness
I’ve loved this article !!!!
Excellent article….more!