"It is a joy to be hidden but a disaster not to be found." -- D.W. Winnicott
a fiesty and intelligent continuation of the more public conversation that the TIME magazine cover sparked.
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Between independence and attachment.
We were born to be independent and the attachment comes more from the momÂ´s side. Give love and put the baby to sleep in the crib it doesnÂ´t mean you are not a good mom or disattached. ItÂ´s so relative but the base for everything is how much LOVE the mom gives to the baby and how welcome this baby is welcomed to the family and how the family keep together along with us during life. If family keep together and loving each other, anyone can be free because thereÂ´s a security in the heart, thereÂ´s peace and love and support. Even though I am miles away from home, I know I have their love and we talk everyday, and we say we love each other and this gives me strengh to keep independent. I wanna the same to my children. ItÂ´s amazing.
oh I think its so important to a little child, to a baby, to give them the warmness and love THEY need. Ive got a little daughter, now six y. , and it was always my belief that I got to orientate myself to her needs. If she cried I comforted her. If she couldn’t sleep alone, I took her to my bed… (yes, it was some nights cruel to get no oder to little sleep..)
Hey Deborah, I agree with you. Its so important that we welcome our children.
Saying “I love you”. Those words I never heard from my mom… and too little from my father.. it still hurts.
Now my little girl.. she gives me so much more back everday for example by telling me that “I’m the best and dearest mom in the world” AHHHH my Heart!!!. And I was not fishing for compliments
Breastfeeding is very important for all children, if all mothers prolongace the maximum, so there was no mortality
I recently read a book on the Inuit in which it mentioned the way they brought up their kids, which out of necessity was an attachment parent model. The kid had to be with you, carried around,they slept with you at night everyone naked under the same skins. The other thing that i found interesting was how the parentâ€™s let their kids play with sharp objects etc., do things that we as western parents would find extremely difficult. They allowed them to learn about what was safe and what wasnâ€™t through their own experience. I know I couldnâ€™t have done that , too protective, but somewhere in the attachment parenting model there has to be room for allowing space for your kids. They will be stronger individuals if thereâ€™s a balance between attachment and non attachment from the parent. Finding that place is a learning, but the thing I remember most about parenting is how much i grew up during the process.
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